Hi there, I'm Sian (it's pronounced shhhhhhhaaaarrrnnn)
but you can call me Sean, most people do!
Hi there, I'm Sian (it's pronounced shhhhhhhaaaarrrnnn) but you can call me Sean, most people do!
I got to my mid-twenties and life was pretty rubbish. I'd managed to get myself into a lot of debt, an abusive relationship and my health wasn’t great. It was like everyone else knew what they were doing, they’d had lessons in school about life that I’d missed. I spent what should’ve been my ‘fun’ years, having no fun at all! I went from job to job doing work that I found completely unfulfilling whilst racking up the credit cards, the whole time thinking that there has to be more to life. I compared myself to everyone else and I felt totally inadequate!
I’m so thankful that in my mid-twenties, my Mum gave me a book, 'The Secret'. This book introduced a new way of thinking, that I was able to create my reality. Up to that point, life had just happened to me...I was ready to change. I became obsessed and read tonnes of books about the law of attraction and creating your reality, I went to seminars, short courses but nothing much changed. The issue was that I was still me! Whilst I felt like I had found the answers to life, I needed the user manual to go with it, the instructions were still missing.
I kept hearing that I had to have total belief in myself, but no matter how many affirmations I did, the voice in my head disagreed and I didn’t know how to make it stop, I felt like an even bigger failure than before. It became an internal tug of war, part of believing anything was possible but the other part of me thinking it will never happen.
I kept asking....how can I make this work?!
I noticed the name NLP coming up over and over again and it looked like the answer to the internal turmoil I’d found myself, I’d found my user manual. Learning NLP was the best decision I ever made. Within such a short space of time I had the courage to leave a 10 year relationship, get myself out of debt and most importantly, I loved who I was for the first time ever; I liked being me!
My whole life has changed for the positive and it continues to get better every day. The way feel about myself and the life I now have is so far from where it was, I am truly happy and it’s my mission to help others to do the same. It's strange, these day's I'm still ME but so much more than that too!
I’m blessed to spend my days training others to be coaches so they can overcome their own obstacles and help others too.
Hey, I'm David, it's pronounced... david.
Hey, I'm David, it's pronounced... david.
‘People pleaser’ I think that would be two words that sum up my life as it was from a young adult and through my twenties. I had lots of ‘friends’ and happily went with the flow, giving others the limelight whilst I hid away in the shadows. This worked quite well for me because it meant I didn’t have to plan or think much for myself. It was only when I got divorced, and life got ‘bad enough’ and by bad enough I mean losing my house, car, job and friends in a short space of time, I realised I had been living a life of ‘settle for anything and hope for the best’. It was time to sink, or swim!
I was already a Master Coach of NLP! Can you believe that?! I was working with clients but not really taking it seriously. To be completely honest, I spent a lot of time thinking others were at fault and I was fine! But when things were the opposite of fine, actually, for me, things were total £$%^! We’re forced to take a look inwards, aren’t we?
It was time to get back to basics, look at the beliefs I had formed, my own values and how I behaved. Who was I? Who did I want to become? Let me tell you, as a practising coach this was a challenge! Aren’t coaches supposed to have everything sorted out, all the time? Ha, let me tell you, certainly not! In NLP there is a saying, my favourite actually and it’s ‘there is no such thing as failure, only feedback’.
It was time to get the coaching manuals out, the very same one I’d used so much with my clients, but this time it was about me! Yikes!
After a period of change, transition, and growth and really practising everything I’d been teaching my own clients. I began to rebuild my life, not the hopeful, settle for life I had before. But just how I wanted life to be.
These days, I’m surrounded by the best people, living my best life, doing what I love. Teaching others the techniques, that if you let them, will change your life. It certainly did for me!